First Date – Singles, there is nothing more nerve-wracking than the first date, you want to make a great first impression so you both want to impress. But instead of making a good impression, you talk and don’t get anything out of it. Well, it’s just one of those first things to happen, you need to think ahead.
In order to get things going again, here are 4 things you can do to ensure a great start to your first date.
- Stay positive. It’s easy to start talking about your ex because it’s a familiar topic but stay away from ex-partners because it can make you look negative if you get too nervous. That could work against you. Plus, it can completely turn your date off. Who wants to hear about what a jerk your ex was? No one does, no matter how much you like your date.
- Ask questions but don’t be too aggressive in asking questions that you think the other person can’t answer. It’s okay to ask general questions to get the conversation going such as if they like going shopping, to what age they would like to be in to get their credit card out to buy something. If you are having dinner in a restaurant and you want to give your date options, you can ask general questions, to choose where to eat, to come in first, second choice or if they have any allergies or what their favorite foods are. To make a choice that you are in the same age range as the other person, simply ask what their favourite foods are. This will allow you to see how food clicks with them and if you wish to take it one step further, to join them for a bite to eat at their favourite restaurant. To continue progression, you could ask them what their favourite restaurants are and genuinely wish them the best of food. A restaurant is a good way to get his or her trust and follow up either with a meal at the other end of the restaurant, or a drink at the bar.
- If you can think of a topic that is light and fun, you can always jump in to a conversation about it. Sometimes a conversation will naturally go to a topic that you can relate to. Perhaps you talked about how much you hate certain movie types. You can talk about it, perhaps it may inspire you to start your own cinema discussion group. This way, you can converse about a favourite movie and ask your date a question or two to follow up.
- Make it a point that you find someone who listens, is interested in you and your date. It is so important to listen to someone before you talk to them. It shows that you are interested. No matter how good of a talker you happen to be, if you spend your date listening to your date, to what they have to say, you will leave them wanting more. People always remember someone who does this. It doesn’t have to be always about you, maybe mention something that you heard the other person say. For example let’s say you went on a trip to Paris. You remembered the name of the street that you were on. Add that in to the conversation and you have created a good impression.
These are just a few of the ways that you can create a good impression on your first date. Know what you are going to say, how you are going to say it, and say it!